Can Law Of Attraction Help You Lose Or Gain Weight?
Most readers would probably have heard or read Napoleon Hill’s highly acclaimed “Think And Grow Rich”. Many people have also claimed that the book changed their way thinking and have seen their personal wealth grow.
Now then, if people can think and grow rich, then can people think and grow thin and slim? Can thinking to be thin help you to lose weight or thinking fat help you gain weight?
Since the released of Rhonda Byrne’s “The Secret” DVD and book, the Law of Attraction or LOA for short, which is the essence of her work has swept the world by storm arousing much renewed interest in metaphysical science and new age spiritual thinking.
If you are not familiar with the law of attraction, then simple definition of the law of attraction is that you attract to you what are in your dominant thoughts and what you are focused on.
In other words, you get what you think and focused on. Of course there are more to it than just merely wishful thinking and if you want to know more, the internet is full of websites on the application of law of attraction.
Experts and teachers of the law of attraction such as Bob Proctor, John Assaraf and some others who appeared in “The Secret” explained that recent breakthroughs in neuroscience along with understanding mental laws, reveal why the “law of attraction” works regardless of whether you look at the theory from a metaphysical or a scientific point of view in a Larry King show in 2007.
Scientists have long known that your subconscious is completely neutral and impartial and it will carry out any instructions you give it by your conscious or logical mind. That means that you can use the law of attraction to attract love, to lose or gain weight, attract wealth, quit smoking or whatever you desire. To skeptics, this sounds too good to be true but to believers, there are too many anecdotal evidence that the law of attraction works without any exception is difficult to ignore.
Unfortunately, many of us are still running negative programs we picked up from others as children when our subconscious minds were totally open and impressionable, or which we have developed over the years as a result of repetition of our own negative thinking.
Yes, many of you may say to me that you have been thinking of losing weight, but is still getting fatter. You see, when you are thinking of losing weight, you are using your conscious mind, but what is your subconscious mind thinking? Here are some examples :-
a) I am fat, therefore I need to lose weight – This thinking cancels out each other. Yes, you want to lose weight, but you are also thinking about being fat. The law of attraction does not react to whether you want it or do not want it, it just delivers to you what you are thinking and focused on and in this instance, you are thinking about being fat as well as losing weight.
b) My family members are fat, so I am genetically programed to be fat – I don’t need to explain this further. It is a self limiting thought and guess what? If you think that you are programed to be fat, then you are. You won’t be doing anything to change the status quo because you will think that it is useless to do so subconsciously. Simple as that.
c) I wish to be thin – Now merely wishing is not good enough, the law of attraction will just entertain your wish. You will always be wishing and wishing and wishing.
d) It is difficult to lose weight – Then you will never lose weight because it will always be difficult for you to lose weight.
So when you do not lose weight even if you have always wanted to, it could be because of your self limiting subconscious thoughts and there could even be hundreds if not thousands of negative programming in our subconscious mind not only in the subject of physical body shape but on other matters such as wealth, health, love and the list goes on.
These negative beliefs are programed into our subconscious mind and most of the time we do not even know that they are there sabotaging us. These thoughts then become our beliefs, habits and automatic behavior.
To change your end results, you need to overwrite the negative programing and instill new positive programing into your subconscious mind. If you are getting more of the same or negative results in your life such as not being able to attract more wealth, good health or the body shape you desire, then you have probably been unconsciously running old negative programs and reinforcing them with daily negative thought patterns.
There are many techniques you can use to get rid of limiting beliefs and negative thoughts such as using goal setting, affirmations and creative visualizations.
I will not describe in detail how these methods work here as books have been written on them. However, from personal experiences, the best method is to use self hypnotism to get rid of these negative programing.
You see, instead of spending a lot of money for a hypnosis therapist to help you find out your self limiting negative thoughts in your subconscious mind and re-program new positive thoughts into it, you can now do it yourself through self hypnosis sessions through CDs or MP3s.
So, how to use self hypnotism to lose weight or gain weight? Well, that is for another article or you click the link in my author’s box and read about them.
Chris Chew
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How can I tactfully get my wife to lose weight because I am losing my attraction to her and it is affecting me
My wife has gained about 80lbs since we got married 4 years ago and now she is 3 months pregnant and will probably gain another 40-50lbs. I have been losing my attraction to her due to her large weight gain. I can’t even make love to her anymore due to her size and my level of attraction for her. It is not fair how life can deal me this kind of fate. How can I get her to lose her weight?
Give up on her find someone better looking.
Life is too short don’t waste time waiting for one thing to get ready if another is already available.
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just start like a work out plan for the two of you…ya know it’s "not that you think she’s fat" it could be something healthy for the two of you to do together…and don’t let too much junk food be around the house or anything
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Trash her chair at the dining room table……..see if she gets the hint……
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Encourage her to lose weight (after the baby is born) by asking her to join a gym with you or telling her you think you ‘both’ can stand to lose a few and go out for walks. Even if she does get angry, at least she will know how you feel (even with these little hints) and she may do something about it.
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Oh, that’s nice. She’s carrying YOUR child and yet she’s "too fat for you". Your pooooor thing…life is treating you so horribly!! I’m about to cry for you!
Have you ever thought that maybe since you’re treating her like crap, that’s why she’s gained the weight? Duh……..
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You’ll get alot of bashing for this question. But, I agree with you. I don’t understand why some people let themselves go once they get married. The tactful and nice thing would be to say "Honey, I want you to be around for a long time. I love you and am concerned for your health. I want to help you be healthier" or just tell her YOU want to lose weight and need a partner to motivate you. And then you guys can walk together in the afternoons or something and start eating healthier.
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Have an affair on her. Seriously, have an affair with a picture of her from 4 years ago. Never insult her, but let her know how gorgeous she was and is. Emphasize your wedding picture and how beautiful that she was.
Part 2. make sure that you are in shape as well. Pick up some curl bars and work on your biceps. She will notice the better looking you.
Part 3. Let her know that you love her very much and show her lots of affection, even if you have to force it for a while.
i.e. make her WANT to be attractive for you, the weight loss will follow.
It will be a process but it will be worth it, because when a woman starts feeling sexy………Damn!!!!
Good luck
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You can’t make her want to loose weight or to become healthier.
That is HER decision. The only person in life that you can change is yourself. So either learn to accept her as she is or leave. Leaving may hurt her but I’m sure that having a husband that doesn’t love her for who she is, is MUCH worse.
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ask her to excersise with you…make it about you tell her you need support and it will also encourage her. BUT…..be sure you ask her doctor what she can and can’t do during her pregnancy.
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Are you trying to get a reaction out of people with this question? You need to go back and look at your wedding vows and READ them. She IS going to get bigger as you said she is pregnant with your baby. But even if she does not get smaller after the baby is born, so what, it should not matter to you at all as to how big she gets IF you love her. If you don’t love her that much, then do you and HER a big favor and leave.You are so depressing that it is not even funny. One of these days you are going to wake up and you are going to be old and bald headed, hope she still loves you IF she is still with you then.
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Hmmm
Well, your avoidance of love making can also be subconscious. Some men find a pregnant woman to be the most attractive thing ever created. Some find the idea of making love to a woman with something growing inside her uncomfortable.
The weight gain is actually quite common when people get married. What can you do about it – tactfully? I have a suggestion: Lead by example. I’ll explain.
You want to talk to her doctor – privately. You can do this with tact, simply by letting him know that you are personally uncomfortable with the weight she’s gained and you were about to suggest that the two of you start a regimen of healthy eating and exercise when she realized she was pregnant. Ask the doctor what you can both do to help ensure the health and safety of the fetus and your wife. What foods should she be eating and how much of it?
Then, when it’s time to go shopping for food – YOU go buy what you have researched and discussed with her doctor. Usually the doctor will have the ability to refer you to a dietician who will have recipes using the best foods for her health and the unborn child’s health. If you still love her, I think you owe it to yourself (and to her) to lead by example. You will get the groceries (so she doesn’t buy fattening foods), you can cook or help cook, and you can work with her doctor on what kind of exercises she needs to be doing. Guess what? You’ll be doing all of this with her.
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While I am sure that many women will totally destroy you for this question, I think you are wise to seek some advice now before it is too late. The lack of physically attraction to your wife will likely lead you to peruse your sexual release in other ways. At first you might seek out some internet porn, but that will likely tempt you toward getting another girl on the side or taking a trip without the wife to a place where sexy young skinny girls are easily available. Once you take that path then you will probably have some beautiful, exotic, skinny, 18-24 year old girl "in love" with you and then you might find yourself in divorce court with so many problems you would never believe.
I don’t really care who you vote for the points on this question, because of all the questions I’ve ever answered this one is the most important one yet. This could be the saving point of your marriage and the lives of your family including your baby are at stake here. If you choose to listen to me, then I think you have a chance.
First, you need to approach the issue with caution and sensitivity. No one likes to be told they are getting fat even if they know they are. Your wife is already probably very emotional from being pregnant so you must proceed with extra caution. However, her pregnancy might work in your advantage. Have a talk with her and the doctor about what you both can do to help insure the health of the baby AND your wife. If your doctor has any brains at all she/he will catch on to the fact that your wife is getting too fat and it might be something the doctor would suggest that your wife take action to help.
After the baby is born and the doctor has cleared her to exercise, try to see if the doctor can suggest a workout program for your wife so she can get back in shape. You should go with her to the gym or wherever she plans to work out if possible. You should also be very supportive in any way you can such as following a nutritious diet and exercise program on your own. It will be more motivating to her if she sees you working out and watching what you eat too.
It will be a lot harder if your doctor doesn’t see the need for your wife to lose weight. You will likely have to wait until after your child is born to do anything. However, let me be very clear with you… if you do not do something to help your wife lose weight you WILL regret it later. Be honest, but be very sensitive too.
Finally, don’t let yourself get pulled into porn or cheating. It is a path that will lead you to more unhappiness. You have a child coming now and that child needs a father. Find a way to help your wife lose weight and save your marriage.
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Personal experience
How slim and trim are you, ,does she want to lose,, I just watched this Dr. Oz on Oprah and he scared the hell out of me with this Omentum thing that attaches to our stomach and makes our guts so fat,
tell her you are worried about her health and with the kids you want her around a long time,
make her feel good about herself, most people overeat because sarotin is released in the small intenstine and makes us feel good,, so the more you eat the more you feel good,,
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My friend 2cool the fat-fool don’t be hating. Your quite the large one yourself, aren’t you? Just keep having your flings like you do and let your wife find a real man. Sorry but i have no patience for a cheater that doesn’t appreciate his wife. I know you know what i’m talking about. Talk to you later precious.
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Don’t be discouraged my friend. What you do after the pregnancy is suggest that you two exercise or go to the gym together. That way you two can bond more and rekindle your marriage. When a woman gets pregnant she gains weight but after the pregnancy she loses some weight. Just don’t give up because you still love her and she still loves you. Ask God to help you and He will began to touch your heart on behalf of your wife. God made you two marriage and He will heal your marriage. Do you believe that?Well it is true and He will do all that we ask or think. Stay encourage and know that things can and will change. God bless you.
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Well, you can’t be too put off by the weight, she IS pregnant, isn’t she? I guess you managed to get it up one time or two.
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I never understand why so many females bash a man that would ask this question.
Ladies this is a health issue not a beauty issue. Men and women both need to watch their weight.
Not only do you owe it to your spouse to be:
Faithful, loving, kind, supportive, honest, and attentive to their romantic and sexual needs.
You have an obligation to take care of yourself.
Why is that so tough to understand?
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How about a couples membership to a Fitness Club when she delivers the baby. She should take it as you wanting to help her lose the "baby fat", and if you keep on going regularly together, then she will continue to lose the baby fat and also some of the excess weight that she has gained. Make sure that you go regularly with her. You could probably use some toning up yourself.
Now that that is said, where do you get off with the comment of "….It’s not fair how life can deal me this kind of fate." Are you the exact same person now that you were when she married you? Probably not. So, while she is working on losing her weight…you need to work on your self-centeredness. The whole world does not revolve around you. Have you ever thought about why she gained all that weight? Maybe there are some issues within you that you need to deal with before you go trashing her.
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First of all, don’t make her feel bad, she’s having a baby and she should not be dieting at this time. Tell her you love her and give her affection, maybe not sex, because women tend to be emotional eaters and not feeling loved will make her eat more.
Tell her something like this, " You know, I have been really feeling unhealthy lately and would like to get on track with a healthier diet and lifestyle." Ask her to exercise with you(try some light walking first, she will probably be out of shape), enlist her help in planning healthy meals for the two of you. Don’t buy the sugary drinks and sweets anymore. She may continue to gain, but she will be changing her habits for the better. She may like the new found energy that comes with being healthy, and she’ll be giving the baby a more healthy start. Continue exercising with her even after the baby is born. Get a couples gym membership(make sure you tell her it’s because you really need her moral support with your new lifestyle). You’ll be healthier for this too! But never, ever insult her or make her feel bad.
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I am in the same predicament.
The truth is..I do side with the poster – nowhere does the guy say he stop loving her, but he does not find her attractive..Remember he changed ONLY because she changed and we are not talking about a couple of pounds, let alone 20-40lbs…We are talking about a transformation of a person – most people probably wouldnt even recognize his wife if they see her before the weight gain then after..The weight is not healthy and thus not attractive either…There is no blame to the husband for feeling this way..Unless he is personally attacking her and calling her names, I will have to say I also have had a hard time wanting to make love to someone you are not attractive to..
How many of you know heavy people – REALLY KNOW them – as in friends – I do..and guess what..the girls that I know..are NEVER attracted to their counterparts HEAVY guys, they actually find the much fit better looking guys…Just because their fat doesnt mean they would automatically find other fat people attractive…and you know what – nothing is wrong with feeling this way..Pencil me this – how many of YOU find fat people attractive – in a physical sense – bet that number will be extremely low…
Of course, you may say a PRETTY BOY will bring you nothing but problems, a think sexy lady will bring you nothing but problems..Hell – I have problems with a fat wife – Id rather be unhappy with someone at least thin than fat..Its like saying, Id rather be poor and happy than rich and unhappy – BS – Id rather be RICH AND HAPPY thant POOR AND HAPPY..
Ive met tons of great loving thin people..Fat people also abuse those who are thin and find something to say bad about them..but there is not one of them that will not want to trade the fat for the thin…Some people look good with some weight, I personally like a girl with some meat on her, I just dont like it when you know there is WAY too much – and it just doesnt look attractive. My wife has a very pretty face – but the rest of her body – disgusts me – but her personality – I will not trade that woman for any thin woman – ever – I love her for that – I never tell her she is Obese, only because she sees herself everyday when she showers, its too sensitve to say anything to her…So I try my best to give her as much loving without trying to notice the obesity – its alot of work – and its worth for me. I wish I could help her loose the weight, Im in pretty good shape, always have been lucky about it…
Just remember – and this goes for men and woman – there is a diff between love and attractiveness. Also, there is absolutely nothing wrong wanting to see your husband or wife in a physically attractive way. Its the way we are, of course there is more to that to make it work – but it plays a part.
Good luck with your wife. I know its hard to deal with it and although you dont expect her to probably loose all the weight. It will be nice to see her drop some pounds, it makes a world of a difference. Just sacrifice everything for her – help her on whatever – dont press it – its not easy to loose weight. At the end if she doesnt want to – well – life provides other options – none that I will suggest – but its human nature – that shit happens..
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